I went through a really tough relationship period a while ago and decided that I’m simply never getting unnecessarily stressed about interpersonal conflict again. We can be sad, mad, crying, screaming, whatever but I just refuse to ruminate or let it affect my general ability to enjoy life. *You* don’t have to be zen but I will personally be relaxed in all situations. I will not be analyzing hypothesizing regretting or yearning beyond the point of reasonableness. If you are angry at me I will apologize. If you don’t want to talk to me I’ll be sad about that. But I absolutely refuse to be neurotic.

if you’re weird to me honestly that’s on you and I don’t want to lose sleep over it. if you’re not being weird to me then naturally I won’t lose sleep over it. either way my focus is going to be on “being nice” and “never losing sleep for any reason”

I had this revelation six months ago like oh my god I’m stressed, I’m breaking out, I’m losing sleep, I’m spiraling… and for what? I literally would be better equipped to deal with any situation if I was well-rested and emotionally regulated. So why not just do that