The essence of relationships 1. The root of hatred is "unmet expectations". 2. People-pleasing is not kindness; it is "an escape from conflict". 3. The deepest loneliness is "being part of a group but lacking a self". 4. Unequal giving is "energy depletion" rather than sacrifice. 5. Intimate relationships are not about "complementing each other" but about "mutual fulfillment". 6. Loneliness is not the absence of friends, but "the lack of resonance in thoughts". 7. True love grants the other person complete "autonomy". 8. Emotional value = "emotional stability + cognitive alignment + scarcity of supply". 9. Cold violence is not indifference; it is "a higher-level version of emotional blackmail". 10. True thoughtfulness is "seeing the unspoken needs of the other". 11. The essence of relationships is "the flow of value", not "who loves whom more". 12. It’s not that the world is indifferent; it’s that you haven’t met "someone willing to make exceptions for you". 13. Love is not a response to need; it is the joy brought by "the mere existence of the other". 14. Emotional value is not about making you happy, but about being willing to "face chaos" with you.