This pisses me off to no end, because moms like this judge mothers like me for not being insane. By her absurd definition, parents should apparently never be arrested for committing crimes. She doesn’t think the problem is the father who literally ran and abandoned his five-year-old child in the street. What kind of parent does that? She doesn’t think the problem is the parents who knowingly committed a crime to come here. By her logic, if your husband doesn’t carry his share of the mental load or co-parent properly, you should divorce him. But if you commit a crime and abandon a child in the middle of the street, suddenly we’re supposed to cry for the criminal and shame anyone who supports enforcement of the law. That contradiction tells you everything you need to know. This is the problem with selfish, not-very-bright people: they filter everything through their own emotions. Virtue signaling feels good. Outrage feels good. Moral posturing feels good. Actually being a responsible adult—acknowledging that laws exist and that breaking them has consequences—doesn’t. So instead of holding criminals accountable or prioritizing children, they choose feelings over reality and call it compassion. And then judge moms who don’t play the virtue signaling game.