Ten suggestions for avoiding internal strife: 1. Do whatever you want, just don't be a person; just be like a person. Life is like a play, don't have too many shackles. 2. Don't deceive, but correctly understand lies and use them. 3. Anything that makes you uncomfortable is wrong; this is the only standard for interacting with others. 4. Focus on practicality: health, making money, strategies; focus on the abstract: morality, emotions, rules. 5. The most important thing in this life is to make yourself happy. 6. Seek within until you are self-sufficient; I am the root of everything, and everything that happens is for my benefit. 7. The power of allowance is greater than everything; allowing everything to happen will prevent you from being crushed. 8. Dare to say no, dare to refuse, and only listen to the voice of your heart. 9. Don't speak, speak less, and only say things that are useful to yourself. 10. The way of heaven is unpredictable; you are formless, and you cannot be defined by anyone, including yourself.

Where attention goes, energy flows. First, focus your attention only on your body, your emotions, and your assets; as long as these three are not affected, let others do as they please. Second, avoid speaking casually, speak less, and only say things that are useful to yourself. Third, do not cultivate friends, subordinates, or lovers; only engage in selection.

Pain is the catalyst of character; it makes the strong stronger, the weak weaker, the violent more violent, the gentle gentler, the wise wiser, and the foolish more foolish.

Never explain yourself to others; those who understand you will know without words, and those who don't will never understand. Those who know me say my heart is troubled, while those who don't know me wonder what I seek. A thousand people may share the same tea but have different tastes; ten thousand may walk the same path but have different hearts. I am fortunate if someone understands me, and I walk alone if no one does. Born to please myself, not to be trapped by others.

If you are an overthinker, it’s because you rarely allow yourself to feel your emotions. Overthinking is a protective mechanism that helps you avoid facing emotions that may make you feel uncomfortable, painful, or vulnerable. You find yourself endlessly caught up in thoughts, analyzing every event, repeatedly recalling past experiences, or imagining future scenarios, all to escape confronting the pain and discomfort within. However, continuous thinking does not solve problems; instead, it leads to more anxiety, stress, and feelings of alienation. Not everything needs to be solved; some things just need to be felt. What you resist persists. Your emotions are not your enemies; facing them and embracing them is the only way to truly let them go.

When a person is unoffendable, untemptable, and unshakeable, they possess a certain charm.

I once saw a bird fly down from a rooftop, suddenly stopping in mid-air, as if it had forgotten why it was flying. I have felt that way too, walking down the road and suddenly stopping, not because I was tired, but because I didn’t know where to go. People come and go around me, and everyone seems to know their direction, while I stand still, like a piece of luggage that has lost its tag. In life, one must always do something, must always go somewhere. But if you ask them why they are going, many cannot explain. They say it’s what should be done, it’s right, it’s necessary. But where does "should" come from? Who decides what is "necessary"? We just follow the crowd, like fish being pushed forward, even if the path ahead is shallow, we still push our way through. Sometimes I wonder if people should have something that is "not supposed to". For example, not supposed to walk along the path set by others for a lifetime, not supposed to always say "it’s okay", not supposed to hide their tears and pretend to understand everything. Some people live their whole lives in the expectations of others, and in the end, they never even think about what they are really like. The loneliest moments in life are not when no one is with you, but when you don’t even know yourself. You look in the mirror and see a familiar face, but the person inside seems like someone you’ve never really talked to. You don’t know the things he once wanted to do, the dreams he once feared, who he secretly liked, or what he truly lost. But people live like this. Sometimes they forget, sometimes they remember, sometimes they want to escape, and sometimes they are reluctant to leave. You see the sky changing, the wind stirring the grass, and you think that’s nature, but in fact, it’s the scenery in your heart that is changing. When you are sad, even under the bright sun, you feel cold. When you are happy, even in the rain, you feel bright. Don’t be afraid to walk slowly, don’t be afraid of others running fast. As long as you don’t forget where you came from, you will always be able to keep going. You can be unremarkable, not great, not glamorous, but you must be real, have your own pain, your own dreams, your own name. That is enough.

Blaming parents will definitely raise angry children, who are good at shifting responsibility onto their kids. Parents say, "This is your fault," and "That is also your fault." When you keep blaming, you are actually creating a version of yourself; you are creating an opposite of yourself. The child will inevitably replicate your behavior; no one can survive under long-term oppression, denial, and blame. At first, the child may not have the energy to bear this responsibility, but over time, they will not be able to hold it anymore, and the responsibility will have to shift back to the parents. This is a basic defensive mechanism of a person. So in the end, within this family, there is mutual blame and shifting of responsibility, everyone is complaining, and everyone pushes all the responsibility onto others, which will become an accepted norm in this family.

Temperament is merely the sediment of life experiences. Those who have not seen the world often exhibit a hint of timidity and restlessness in their every gesture, while those who have experienced the ups and downs of life carry a certain strength even in silence. This cannot be achieved through imitation; it is the scars that fate has etched upon us that ultimately transform into a calm confidence. The Dao can be understood but not learned, the classics can be read but not recited, a master can be revered but not followed, suffering can be endured but not praised, heaven can be respected but not deceived, people can be befriended but not sought after, fortune can be cultivated but not seized, and power can be borrowed but not taken. By using history as a mirror, one can understand the rise and fall; by using bronze as a mirror, one can correct one's attire; by using people as a mirror, one can clarify gains and losses. In all things, moderation is key; when water is full, it overflows, when the moon is full, it wanes, and when things reach their extreme, they reverse. Seeing through complexity is a skill, choosing simplicity is a realm; act with a heart of non-action while doing things with purpose. When someone establishes a persona, the game has begun; preaching is futile, breaking bones is the best textbook! Reflect in stillness, and hone your skills through experience.

A person who walks alone is not someone to be underestimated; either they are born with a wolf-like nature, or life has worn them down to the bone. He has been stabbed in the chest with the deepest wound and has crawled out of the abyss bit by bit. In a world that is cold and indifferent, he has long chewed and swallowed the bitterness, forging a resilience deep within. Living is not about shouting it out; it's about gritting your teeth and crawling out of the mud. You haven't walked through the thorns he has, nor tasted the shards of glass he has swallowed, so what right do you have to advise him to be kind? Such a person has long become their own armor, filled with pride, a rich inner life, and walks alone as if among the crowd. With mountains and seas in his heart, why would he need to join the masses?