why does "50/50" in relationships always feel unfair to someone? game theory explains it the setup: both people say they'll "split effort equally" but what counts as effort? person A: cooks dinner, plans dates, initiates texts, remembers birthdays person B: shows up, is present, "doesn't believe in keeping score" both think they're doing 50% the tragedy of the commons problem: if effort is "shared": - dominant strategy = do less - your partner picks up slack - you benefit without full cost - Nash equilibrium = both do minimum i tracked this with my friend's relationship: relationship effort over 6 months: person A: - planned 12/12 dates - initiated 80% of texts...