If you find someone who appears dignified on the outside, relaxed in demeanor, yet possesses a strong core, then they have undoubtedly endured extraordinary grievances and setbacks, which have led to a qualitative change in their psychological capacity. In psychology, there is a specific term called post-traumatic growth. What does this mean? It refers to the phenomenon where many individuals, after experiencing significant trauma and pain, not only do not get crushed but instead achieve psychological development and maturity that surpasses their previous state. What does not kill them truly makes them stronger. Moreover, have you noticed that those who are genuinely strong at their core and full of energy always appear very calm, even somewhat unapproachable? They do not easily display a desire to save in front of the weak, nor do they show a tendency to cling to the strong. Why? Because their inner order has already been established; they stand firmly on their own ground, living at their own pace, with stable careers, stable emotions, and stable relationships. Everything they do is to maintain and grow this inner stability. But how can ordinary people achieve this stability and strength that comes from post-traumatic growth? First, you must rid yourself of the victim mentality; this is the most crucial and counterintuitive first step. People naturally tend to excuse themselves, attributing their misfortunes and unhappiness to the external world—the faults of their original family, their leaders, their partners, and the larger environment. But you must understand that the moment you comfortably play the victim and push all responsibility away, you hand over the only weapon to change your fate. Because the true strong mindset is always to seek within when faced with adversity; they view all fair or unfair experiences as opportunities to forge themselves, seeing every hardship as a purgatory for self-awakening. Secondly, you must master a core survival principle essential for the strong, which is to simplify all problems into a fundamental solution. For minor issues, focus on your emotional feelings; for major issues, focus on your interests and losses. What does this mean? For example, if there is a conflict within the family, that is a major issue. Your core interest is to have a harmonious family environment that can support you. So, those capable will let their results speak for themselves, and those with money will let their finances speak. You should use your value to determine your voice, rather than getting caught up in meaningless emotional arguments. Similarly, if you are suppressed by your boss at work, that is also a major issue. Your core interest is personal growth and career development, so use the company's platform and salary to enhance your abilities, treating your current boss as a paid coach and the company as your springboard, ready to leave when the time is right. In intimate relationships, compromising excessively is also a major issue. Your core interest is to have a relationship that nourishes you and helps you become a better self, so strive to become that better self. If the other party remains stagnant or even drains you, your choice is to decisively cut your losses and seek someone who matches your persona better. As for the opinions of those who are irrelevant to you, or colleagues who undermine you, these are minor issues. How do you feel emotionally? Is it dissatisfaction or anger? Then allow yourself to feel that dissatisfaction and anger, and quickly metabolize those negative emotions. Do not waste your time and energy on these trivial matters. Once you start living by this principle, you will discover a universal law. As long as you activate the strong mode, those around you whose energy does not match yours will immediately reveal their true selves. Because you are no longer on the same frequency, you will instantly see their true colors and intentions. At this point, you only need to focus on yourself, gradually reclaiming all the energy and effort you once invested. When you reclaim your energy, your world will instantly become clean. However, there is a hidden danger you must be aware of: when you are growing the fastest and your energy is at its peak, there will definitely be people or things trying to steal your energy. The essence of this is that your improvement disrupts their inherent perception of you and the old balance you had with them. Even your own body and subconscious may try to prevent your growth because they cling to that comfort zone. This is known in psychology as the Jonah complex, the fear of growth and the fear of success. At this time, what you need to do is reconcile with your past self and communicate with your inner self, telling it that you know this is difficult, but we must move forward. When you and your inner self reach an agreement, all discomfort will disappear. Finally, you will find that you no longer need to deliberately pursue the so-called strong mode because you have already transcended it. You will naturally distance yourself from those who drain you and engage with people of a higher energy level. You will discover that those with higher energy levels are more humble, tolerant, and willing to share. At that time, you will transition from the strong mode to the wise mode; you will no longer exhibit self-isolation or arrogant behavior typical of the strong. Your inner self will be extremely clear and confident, your soul will be both rich and light, and your life will be both fulfilling and free.