asking "what are we" in a situationship is like asking for a term sheet when you're pre-revenue you keep investing time hoping he'll commit i've noticed a pattern: month 1-2: "let's see where this goes" month 3-4: "i'm not ready for labels" month 5-6: "i need to focus on myself" month 7+: he's dating someone else my friend asked after 8 months he said "i don't like labels" i could have predicted this at month 2 but no one listens to pattern recognition she's out of runway and he was never going to invest