What do you think about a man who never sees his children after a divorce? From my observations around me, after a divorce, when the child is with the mother, the only child who is closer to the father is a friend who never actively pays child support. My friend, when the mother asks him for child support, refuses to give it. He says he will only give money if the child asks him directly; if the mother asks, he won’t give a cent. At first, the mother also wanted to be tough and consider suing him, but even if she won, the father could drag it out. In the end, after a lot of hassle, she had no choice but to let the child ask for it. If the child is unwilling to come and ask, the mother forces the child to go and ask; as long as the child comes over, my friend not only gives the child support but sometimes even gives a little extra, and he tells the child that this money is for him, not for his mother. Although the child initially came over looking very resentful, slowly their relationship eased, and they became close later on. After all, one is the person who puts money in your pocket every time, and the other is the one who takes money out of your pocket every time. With actual contact over time, some illogical statements can gradually be discerned. What’s scary is when there is no actual contact, and you can only receive one-sided information; that’s when you really end up raising an enemy with your money.