i have two friends who recently hit 40 and suddenly decided they wanted kids after being on the fence for years. they’re both dating, but of course the guys who want kids are only considering women in their 30s. it’s too late for them to realistically freeze eggs. i’m so sad for them. talked to a friend who’s 33 the other day who said she probably wants kids but is feeling really good about having lots of personal time and doesn’t want to date or think about kids rn. she said she has a lot of personal growth she wants to do first. i tried to tell her that having kids is a great way to grow but i could tell she was bothered by me saying this. nobody could have anticipated that when people started telling girls to delay marriage and motherhood, many of them would take this to mean they could wait til 38 not 28. it’s somehow offensive to try to correct this.