guide to making friends and having a social life in SF step 1: make plans with friends but only 6 weeks in advance with a calendar invite that is modifiable by both parties, with an understanding that this will absolutely get cancelled day-of by the person who initiated the invite step 2: follow up to reschedule but only on obscure messaging platforms the other person never checks (recommend: Signal) step 3: manage to reschedule, but forget to send a calendar invite step 4: travel up to an hour to meet but the other person is a no show and you never hear from them again never forget that the real treasure are the calendar invites we sent along the way