this is true. people will mistake this for saying “if you’re not doing things you’re not healing” but the better interpretation is: your healing practices should bring you closer to feeling powerful and capable. this can be done by clarifying your focus & doing meaningful tasks.

anxious attachment and avoidant attachment are both just ways of hedging against letting someone truly know you, keeping both from being able to evaluate the potential for the relationship honestly

narratives are substances; be careful which ones you indulge in.

two year old this morning asked to play “hearts”. no idea what he’s talking about. apparently it’s on my phone. turns out he wanted to scroll the twitter timeline on my phone and like every post.

disagree. it’s how you transcend thoughts like “the ultimate aim is to just exist” and tap into an alternative magical existence where you pay attention to the right things, manage your energy, and do not avoid large parts of your psyche that make you want to numb out regularly.

when you make your message clear, the path forward appears

really this can all just be summarized by: be spontaneously loving

hard to state this obvious observation loud enough for it to actually be integrated into the collective psyche table stakes if you’re taking advice from someone: do you want your life to look more or less like theirs in the area they are advising you on?

In some traditions, if you went to a medicine person or shaman complaining of sickness, they didn't prescribe anything right away. They'd ask, "When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing? When did you stop telling stories?" ..says a lot about what healing used to mean

Male "healing" is actually about feeling power, agency, and capability. The easiest way to achieve this is through the productive completion of meaningful tasks.