Sooner or later, you will realize that many things are not important, and you don't need to care about them. When you start letting go of those unimportant things, you will become free, happy, and become "yourself" instead of looking for a stereotypical characteristic in society. Being yourself means earning money on your own, saying what you want to say, doing what you want to do; if I don't earn a dime from you, I don't care about your this or that.